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Leadercast 2014: Dr. Henry Cloud

During the second session of Leadercast we had the opportunity to learn from well known leadership expert Dr. Henry Cloud. If you haven’t read his recent book Boundaries for Leaders pick it up today!

  • As a leader you leave a wake behind you in every interaction, in every strategy, in every instance, etc. There are two sides to the wake you leave…

#1 is the results – you got to produce results to lead
#2 is the relationships – you’ve got to have relationships to get results

  • All influence is driven by trust
  • For you to have influence that goes beyond yourself people have to trust you
  • You will build trust to the degree that the people you lead feel that you are connected to them
  • The human heart above all else wants to be known and understood…if you’re people feel known and understood you will have the opportunity to influence them
  • You understand your people when your people understand that you understand them
  • Opportunity comes when your passion and what you’re good at meet a need that people have
  • If your influence is going to go past you, there has to be something in you that goes past you
  • Leaders who have influence that goes beyond themselves are leaders that give up control & then define and connect what others are going to control based on their passions and what they’re good at
  • Connect what your team can control to the results you’re going after

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Global Leadership Summit 2013: Dr. Henry Cloud

Leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and best selling author Dr. Henry Cloud spoke on “Reversing the Death Spiral of a Leader.” Check out his newest book Boundaries for Leaders.

  • Leaders take ownership, face the brutal facts, and deal with big problems.
  • The most difficult thing for a leader to be in charge of is himself/herself.
  • Some leaders get results and some don’t. Leaders who get results will eventually hit a point where they begin to spiral down…what happens next matters.
  • Leaders who get through spirals think, behave and feel differently than those who spiral out.
  • If you’ve got a choice between those who can and don’t think they can, and those who can’t and think they can…those who think they can will win every time.
  • The #1 factor of getting between here and there is believing that it can happen.
  • All leaders believe it can happen when they begin. But eventually circumstance arise and they realize that they’re out of control of their circumstances.
  • Learned helplessness: you were designed by God to be in a cause & effect universe A+B=C. When you are out of control of things that begin to affect you something happens…
  • The 3 P’s:
    • Personal: Why didn’t that work? I’m no good. I can’t do it. Every leader does stuff that doesn’t work in moving from here to there. The ones that don’t spiral don’t take it personal. When leaders take it personal and can’t have control of results, they spiral out of control.
    • Pervasive: it’s not just that one person, it’s everyone. My whole life sucks. Everything becomes bad.
    • Permanent: It’ll always be this way, it’s never going to change,
  • There’s a way out.
  • Science and the Bible always agree in a place called reality. If they’re not agreeing you’ve got wacky science or goofy Christians and there’s no shortage of either.
  • Reversing the 3 P’s:
    • #1 Log and dispute your negative thoughts
    • #2 Take back control by dealing with reality and make a list of what you can control and what you can’t control. Everyone has control of something.
      • Your life is a movie it’s not a scene and every great movie has crisis scenes in it
    • #3 You must connect
      • Your brain needs fuel: oxygen, glucose, & relationship
  • The answer to feeling bad is not feeling good it’s love
  • In the beginning we sinned, and felt bad and covered up, and started trying to do good, but it doesn’t make us feel better, love does
  • Find a way!

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What 2nd Chair Leaders are Looking For

I recently had the opportunity to sit down with a room full of Second Chair Leaders and have a conversation with them about what they’re looking for from the leaders they’re serving under. This is what they had to say.

1. I need clarity

I want to support you, that’s why God put me in the role I’m in. I’m not pushing back, I’m just chasing after understanding. I just need you to give me a clear picture of the future so I can help us get there.

2. Say you’re sorry

When you make a wrong call, just own it. You don’t need to impress me. I’m leading close enough to you to already know you’re not perfect.

3. Give me clear Boundaries

I love implementing but I want to honor you at the same time. Be clear with me about how far I can go with implementation before checking in to make sure the results are what you were hoping for.

4. Bring me in the loop sooner rather than later

I want to help you make the vision God’s given you become real. But if you bring me in on the ground floor of an idea I can help you build a great foundation and map a great game plan for the future.

If you’re a 1st Chair Leader this list can provide you with some incredible insight to the heart of your team. I hope you take advantage of this list and it’s helpful to you. If you’re a 2nd Chair Leader, what would you add to the list? Leave a comment.


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