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Why a Great Strategy Won’t Grow your Church

If you know anything about me, you know that I’m a strategy guy. It’s how God has wired me up. It’s my best place in the Church. Strategy bridges the gap between where we are and where we’re going.

Mission answers the question: “Why do we exist?”
Vision answers the question: “Where are we going?”
Strategy answers the question: “How are we going to get there?”

Strategy, I believe, is the greatest missing link in a majority of churches today. The church has a great mission. Jesus picked that for us. Most churches aren’t short on vision. They have big God given dreams of what a preferred future looks like. They just don’t know how to align all of the pieces of the church and design a clear pathway to get where they want to go.

But as much as I love building and executing a great strategy. A great strategy alone won’t grow your church. And that’s because…

Love is more important than strategy

If I have the best strategy in the world but don’t have love, it’s worthless. If that’s sounds vaguely familiar, that’s because it should be. In 1 Corinthians chapter 13 the Apostle Paul writes that even though he may have incredible gifts, abilities, and do incredible God sized things…without love he says it’s literally worthless.

  • A great strategy without love is hollow, provides an empty promise, and ultimately creates a cancer that erodes your team and your church.
  • A great love without strategy is equally hollow because it doesn’t provide a pathway for action to help more people experience the love that they need.

All of that being said, if your church needs help building and executing a great strategy to get where Jesus wants you to go, I’d recommend you take a look at the Unstuck Group. These guys really are the best strategic consulting group for churches out there!

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Why I Love Working at Sun Valley Community Church

When I was a freshman in High School I prayed a prayer, begging God to let me to be a part of helping thousands of people meet Him. It’s crazy to think that all of these years later God is answering those prayers.

Every year at Sun Valley Community Church we share wins from the previous year of ministry and I thought I’d share them with you. I hope this is encouraging to you, inspires you, and prompts you to pray for the ministry of Sun Valley.

Ministry isn’t all about the numbers, it’s about life change. That’s why I’m excited about these numbers, because they represent lives that are being changed.  These numbers below represent stories of people who Sun Valley has helped meet, know and follow Jesus.

  • 1,034 people said yes to following Jesus
  • 799 people were baptized
  • 506 people strengthened their marriage through our marriage ministry
  • More than 3,800 people attended a Sun Valley Campus for the first time
  • More than 2,000 people are a part of a volunteer team
  • More than 3,300 people are a part of a small group where they’re building great friendships centered around Gods’ Word
  • We’ve ministered to more than 1,600 kids and students every week
  • More than 300 people went on a short-term mission trip
  • 76 families paid off more than $750,000 of debt through our financial ministry
  • More than 1.6 Million Dollars went outside the 4-walls of Sun Valley Community Church to help people all over the world meet, know and follow Jesus
  • We opened our 5th Campus on Christmas Eve with more than 1,900 people in attendance and 30 people said yes to following Jesus!

You’re allowed to celebrate right along with us. The Kingdom of God is taking ground through the ministry of Sun Valley! It’s humbling and exciting to see prayers I prayed years ago as a freshman in High School answered all of these years later. So pray big prayers and take big risks, because we have a big God, and He still does big things! I’d encourage you, if the Lord brings us to your mind, pray for us as we continue to help the thousands who don’t yet know Jesus meet, know, and follow Him.

Posted in Leadership, Spiritual Formation


Global Leadership Summit 2013: Dr. Brene Brown

Dr. Brene Brown, Research Professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work did an incredible job speaking about the vulnerability of a leader. Dr. Brown is a groundbreaking researcher into the topics of shame, worthiness, and courage. Check out her book Daring Greatly.

  • I don’t study leaders, I study people
  • The 2 irreducible needs of people are #1 Love and #2 Belonging
  • In the absence of love and belonging there will always be pain and suffering
  • People have 3 basic needs in life:
    • People need to be seen & loved
    • To belong
    • To be brave
  • Connection gives meaning to our lives
  • We have to allow ourselves to be loved.
  • Love is not something that we give or get but something that we nurture and cultivate between 2 people when they learn to love themselves.
  • Shame blame, disrespect, betrayal and the withholding of affection damage the root from which love grows.
  • Growth through connection: love is something that happens through connection with other people, it doesn’t happen alone by ourselves
  • You don’t have all the answers
  • We have too many problems, and if everyone who acted like they had all the answers actually had all the answers then why aren’t they solving all the problems?
  • Leaders aren’t supposed to have all the answers.
  • What a leader does is model the courage to ask the tough questions.
  • We can’t give what we don’t have (courage, sense of belonging, permission to ask for grace, etc.)
  • We cannot give help when we cannot ask for it.
  • When you feel self judgment for asking for help you are by default always judging when you offer help because you’ve attached judgment to needing help
  • Judgment shows up by deriving self worth through being a helper
  • Professing v. Practice
  • Love is a practice and when you engage in unloving practices your not loving
  • The space between how we behave and our aspirational values (love), that gap is where we lose people
  • People can’t navigate the gap between what we say and what we practice
  • People aren’t looking for perfection they’re looking for people who practice love
  • What kills love kills organizations
  • Shame: can only rise to a certain level until people disengage to self protect (humiliating and putting people down / gossip / favoritism / self worth attached to performance)
  • Blame: the simple discharging of pain and discomfort / the people who score the highest in the ability to hold people accountable have the lowest blame scores
  • Disrespect: #1 reason people leave jobs = lack of feedback / people feel unseen and disrespected / you can’t be good at feedback if you’re not willing to be vulnerable / it means sitting on the same side of the table as someone and looking at the problem together
  • Belonging: #1 barrier = fitting in / you have to make space in your organization for people to show up and be seen for who they are not who they could be
  • Be Brave: we never feel more alive than when we are being brave (love, work, etc)
  • You can choose courage or you can choose comfort but you can not have both the two are mutually exclusive
  • If you sign up for courage you are signing up to get your butt kicked
  • If you’re going to be brave you need: Clarity of values & someone who loves because of your imperfections
  • If you are not in the arena not getting your butt kicked I am not interested in or open to your feedback
  • As the world has grown the number of cheap seats has grown

Posted in Leadership


Global Leadership Summit 2013: Bob Goff

Founder and CEO of Restore International, Attorney, and Author of the incredible book Love Does. In his unique style Bob talked about how love takes action.

  • You don’t have to talk people into Jesus just lead them to Him
  • Stalkers know stuff about Jesus…but they don’t know Jesus
  • If you can answer these 2 questions you’ll lead well:
    • Who are you?
    • What do you want?
  • Love God, love people, and do stuff
  • If you do a bunch of stuff that Jesus made you to do you’ll be a leader
  • Your leadership needs to develop over time
  • You know how to do this stuff…just land the plane
  • Jesus sees who we are becoming (Peter you’re a rock…)
  • See people for who they’re becoming…not who they were
  • Build a start quitting list…build margin and you’ll be amazed what God will do
  • God’s ability to forgive us, isn’t limited by our ability to get it

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how to change your marriage

The easiest and most productive step you can take to change your marriage is to change yourself! After being married for the past 15 years and providing coaching and shepherding to other marriages during that same period of time in full-time ministry; one of the most simple and yet most powerful lessons I’ve learned is the significance of taking personal responsibility. You want to change your marriage? Then quit shifting blame and take ownership for what is happening inside of you and as a result the patterns of behavior that you’ve established in the relationship with your spouse. Check out these 4 steps you can start taking today…

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Posted in Family