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Top Posts of 2012 #3: What Your Pastor Isn’t Telling You

This post checks in at #3 this year. I say ‘this year’ because I originally wrote this post back in 2011 and it has been in the top five read posts for the past 2 years. Apparently is struck a nerve.

 


 

Most Lead Pastors come off as having it all under control. Never let ‘em see you sweat right? Nothing could be further from the truth. More often than not it’s more like the proverbial duck that on top of the water looks calm, cool, and collected; all the while under the water his little feet are frantically paddling for dear life. If you’ve never been a Lead Pastor before let me take a moment to help you understand what it’s like to live in their shoes and what often times is going on in their heart. My hope is that you’ll remember these truths the next time you get frustrated and are tempted to become critical of your Lead Pastor. And instead of pouring salt in a wound you’ll be the kind of Staff Member or Church Member who holds your Lead Pastor’s arms up and lightens their load.

1. Your Pastor Feels Overwhelmed by Criticism

People complain about the volume of the music, what I’m wearing, the temperature of the room, that you didn’t visit them in the hospital, that you don’t read from the right version of the Bible, that you’re not deep enough (although they don’t even know the names of their neighbors), that you’re too deep, that I’m in the green room instead of the lobby, that while I’m in the lobby I didn’t say hi to them, that I didn’t remember their name even though I’ve only met them once never hung out with them and have 3,000 other names to know. People complain about other areas of ministry in the Church to them, and even if they handle this well and direct them to see the appropriate Staff Member, it creates a burden for them to carry. I’ve even heard friends of mine who are Pastors talk about having to have security guards follow them around for periods of time due to threats to them and their families. Or I love it when people say now Pastor this isn’t personal BUT…we think if you just did…fill in the blank (it’s not personal but?!!?!?!?). Okay, that might have been a bit of a rant.

2. Your Pastor Feels Pressure from Everywhere

Everybody seems to have expectations for Pastors to live up to and amazingly somehow know God’s will for their Pastor’s life and the Church they’re leading. The Church Body has theirs; the Staff has theirs, the Elders, Deacons or whatever the governance structure is or who the decision makers happen to be have theirs. It comes from all sides. As a result many Pastors I talk to feel as though they’re not only fighting the Enemy, but their fighting the Family as well.

3. Your Pastor Frequently Feels like Quitting

Take a moment to do a quick internet search on “pastor burnout” and the results might shock you. You’ll find pages and pages of articles, statistics, and stories of literally hundreds of men leaving the ministry every single day. Just take a quick look below:

  • CNNMoney.com posted an article listing 15 “Stressful Jobs That Pay Badly.” Included in this list are #5 “Music Ministry Director” and #10 “Minister.”
  • Fifteen hundred pastors leave the ministry each month due to moral failure, spiritual burnout or contention in their churches.
  • Eighty percent of pastors and eighty-four percent of their spouses feel unqualified and discouraged in their role as pastors.
  • Fifty percent of pastors are so discouraged that they would leave the ministry if they could, but have no other way of making a living.

I’ve had conversations with Pastors from small churches, mega-churches, multi-site churches, church plants, established churches, contemporary churches, and traditional churches. Somewhere along the road they feel like giving up, some of them have thought about it so much that they even have a fallback plan. Over and over again I’ve heard the statement, “There isn’t a month that goes by that I don’t think about resigning.”

4. Your Pastor is often Confused about the Next Steps the Church should take

Your Church may have a clearly articulated Mission Statement, Values that are actionable, and a clear path and strategy to move people towards maturity but many Pastors still struggle with what next steps the Church should take. I’ve heard Pastor’s say:

“When my office door is closed and no one’s around I often feel confused about what’s next.”

“If God doesn’t show up we’re in trouble because I don’t know what to do next.”

“Here I am at the point of this thing and all of these people are looking to me for where we’re going and there are real moments when I feel like I have no clue where we’re going.”


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Top Posts of 2012 #4: Is there Hope for Dying Churches?

Church mergers are not only on the rise, it is a growing trend and this story proved it this year.

 


 

 

New Hope Baptist Church began in the early 1960’s. But if you drive by the campus in Mableton, Georgia, a suburb located on the northwest side of Atlanta, you’ll see a sign out front that reads “Vinings Lake Church.” Last year I had the opportunity to get to know Alex Swann, who serves on staff at Vinings Lake Church, and hear the incredible story.

In the spring of 2005 New Hope had dwindled down to about 25 people who were remaining at the church. They had a heart to reach the changing suburban community around them with the Gospel, but were stuck. So they decided to approach Pastor Johnny Hunt and First Baptist Woodstock for help because of their proven record of starting churches. To make an incredible story short, First Baptist Woodstock “launched” Pete Hixson from their staff, and started a brand new church called Vinings Lake. The “launch” team that started Vinings Lake was made up of the remaining people of New Hope, some people from First Baptist Woodstock, and others from the community that had heard what was going on and wanted to be a part of it. During the preparation time as the core group was meeting they also conducted an “Extreme Church Makeover” to the facility – modernizing the inside and outside of the campus. Vinings Lake Church held their first services on Easter of 2006, a year after the leadership team from New Hope had first approached First Baptist Woodstock for help. Today Vinings Lake is growing, has two weekend services, and is averaging over 400 people in its services.

In their new book “Better Together: Making Church Mergers Work,” Jim Tomberlin and Warren Bird assert the following:  “Roughly 80 percent of the three hundred thousand Protestant churches in the United States have plateaued or are declining, and many of them are in desperate need of a vibrant ministry. Among the 20 percent of growing congregations across the United States, many are in desperate need of space. These conditions present a potential win-win for forward-thinking church leaders who believe that “we can do better together than separate,” and it is revitalizing church topography.”

Could a church merger be in your future?


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Top Posts of 2012 #5: Better Together Making Church Mergers Work

For the next five days I’m going to be running down the top 5 posts from 2012 on Helping Churches Make Vision Real. These are the posts that generated the most traffic, comments, tweets, and Facebook posts. We start off with what ended up being a 2-part post. One of the most exciting things I’ve ever had the opportunity to have a part in leading through was the merger between 2 churches. This 2 Part post was a conversation that highlighted some of what was navigated during that merger.

 


 

Leadership Network recently released a new book called, “Better Together: Making Church Mergers Work” by Jim Tomberlin and Warren Bird. A first of it’s kind; the book provides readers with an incredible guide to help them navigate their way through this new world of church mergers. It is filled with real-world accounts, tangible research, helpful tools, transferable principles, and a new framework for language on the subject. Anyone considering a church merger or wanting to stay current on what is happening in the modern church needs to pick this book up.

Recently I had the opportunity to sit down with the Lead Pastors at Sun Valley Community Church, Scott Ridout and Chad Moore, whose merger story is told in the book, “Better Together.”

Here’s Part-1 of my interview with Scott and Chad:

Paul: When I talk mergers with people the first question everyone wants to know the answer to is, “How did this happen?” So take a moment and walk us through the story about Bethany Community Church merging with Sun Valley Community Church.

Scott and Chad: We had been thinking about it at the Executive-level of our staff for some time. We knew that in the near future our current campus in Gilbert, situated on 9 acres, would max out attendance between 4,000-4,500 and the relocation option was too expensive. So we initiated some conversations with churches that we knew of who were struggling and where momentum was waning. Through our involvement with Leadership Network we had been influenced on our ideas about multisite being around guys like Greg Surratt, Larry Osborne and Mark Driscol. When we first approached our Board they were hesitant about the idea. But we gave them each a copy of Multisite Church Revolution to read and discuss the next time we got together. At our next meeting it was the Board saying we need to do this. We had a couple of start and stops along the way. There was an opportunity to purchase the facility of a dying church, another time there was a gentleman in the church who said he was going to donate a large sum of money to be used towards a multisite. While neither of these options became reality it forced us to begin preparing and start dreaming. As we approached different churches about the idea, at the request of our Board, the biggest consistent obstacle to potential merger that kept coming up in many churches was the blind pride of existing leadership. Thinking that they were okay even though they had been plateaued or in decline for years. Financial stability became the indicator for health and survival, not Kingdom impact, growth or momentum.

When the idea of approaching Bethany Community Church surfaced we thought it was too big of a step to take. Bethany had a beautiful built out campus, was debt free, had a history as a large influential church back in the day, and the campus is located on 14 acres right next to a freeway. But momentum had waned and they had been in decline for over 15 years. In initial meetings with their pastor he indicated that they had been playing defense for too long, and in football no one every says, “that offense is tired.”

Paul: It’s one thing to get a positive vote and officially merge, it’s a whole other thing to role up your sleeves and do the hard work after the vote. What are some of the unforeseen obstacles that you’ve run up against?

Chad: Honestly we were surprised by how much that had to change on the original campus to make this happen. Particularly when it comes to Scott and his leadership. No one has gone through more change in this than Scott. To transfer culture and provide strong leadership we chose to have Scott lead out on the new Tempe Campus. To do that he had to leave a campus where he had literally helped build the first building with his bare hands.

Scott: There is always sacrifice and loss involved significant change. This change, required great trust in other leaders and incredible sober mindedness.  We thought things were really good on the original campus, but we discovered that we couldn’t articulate things well enough to be reproduced quickly on two new campuses (Sun Valley has also begun a new campus south of Phoenix in Casa Grande). We discovered that we needed to go back to the drawing board to clarify some things; we had actually out grown many of our systems. We had gotten very focused on the merger and the future and clarity had been lost during that period of time regarding vision, values, and our pathway.

Paul: Sun Valley and Bethany chose to bring Jim Tomberlin from Multisite Solutions to the table as a consultant to walk both parties through this journey. What was your experience like with Jim?

Scott and Chad: A neutral party like Jim can say some hard things to both parties involved. He helped us define reality very well in the process and mapped a clear course forward. The best consultants have the ability to help their clients “understand the king doesn’t have any clothes on” and help navigate potential landmines. Jim helped us walk through 25 things that every church needs to talk about in a potential merger. He laid the track out for us to run on. He helped us articulate not only is this feasible, but also is it wise. Jim helped us work through pages of documents over and over and over again. By the time it got to the public phase it had been wrestled with so much that all of the leaders involved were using the same language and on the same page. At the end of the day Jim was seen as an objective party with expert experience. He gave us real hope that it was feasible, that this could be done, because it’s been done, and he’s been a part of it.

You can read the rest of the interview by clicking here.

You can read more about Sun Valley’s story in chapters 12-13 as well as in Appendix B and C of the book “Better Together: Making Church Mergers Work.”


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Ministry Trends for 2013

Last week Rich Birch, who serves as the Director of Operations at Liquid Church in New Jersey released an info-graphic about trends he’s seeing in ministry as we head into 2013. With his permission I’m happy to share it with you here. You can keep up with Rich at his blog unseminary where he discusses stuff you wish they taught in seminary.

Which of these trends have you seen? Which ones do you disagree with? Anything surprising to you? Or is there anything you would add? What trends are you observing as we head into 2013? Leave a comment!

 


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Why Telling People What to do makes them Stupid

While directions and plans may help you put together furniture from Ikea (with a little luck), put together your kids toys on Christmas Eve or even build enormous buildings and superstructures they don’t inspire people to give their lives to a cause or join a movement. After all, Martin Luther King Jr. said ‘I have a dream’, not ‘ I have a plan’.

While telling people what to do may help you accomplish your plan, the dark side to telling people what to do is that it builds a culture that…

1. Repels Leaders

2. Thwarts Innovation

3. Discourages Involvement

4. Stifles the Development of Talent

5. Undermines Creativity

6. Uses People instead of Empowers them

7. Avoids Risk and Plays it Safe

What else would you add to the list? What experience do you have with leaders who seem to have the need to tell people what to do? I’d love to hear your thoughts, leave a comment. Want to dig into this idea further? Check out this TED Talk by Simon Sinek.


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